26.8.08

In Search of Children


So Lisa and I have a pretty good life. We really can't complain about too much, we could, but it would mostly just be complaining to each other. We both really want kids, and after several years of "trying" it is still just the Chris and Lisa show in our house. Don't get me wrong, we have a lot of fun together and enjoy our freedom to be able to pick up and leave for the weekend whenever we want or do any number of things on the spur of the moment. Things that would be much more difficult with kids. So we finally broke down and went to fertility specialists at the end of last year and it worked out so that the doctor that Lisa went to is male, and my doctor is female. Of course. And it turns out that we both have fertility "issues" that needed to be addressed. Because of our "issues" our doctors told us that basically we would never conceive on our own. At least the odds were so slim, it would be better to put money on the Lander Jr. High School 7th grade B team winning the next Super Bowl than on us producing offspring by more traditional methods. Not good. Without going into too much detail, we have since gone through a number of different procedures that haven't worked, and we don't have too many options left for us to conceive. All of this has been hard on us and quite emotionally draining at times. One of the things that has helped as we've gone through this process is that we've at least been able to laugh about it and make fun of the situation, especially Lisa making fun of me. It seems that I'm easy to make fun of, whoever would have thought of that?

So, having gone through what we have, and getting ready to go through even more, there is one question that keeps coming to mind...


... are they really worth it?

8 comments:

Carrie said...

Chris, Hi from the Grahams!! I found your blog on your facebook page. Nice to "see" you!! Your wife is beautiful, and you too look happy. Being the mom of two girls those pictures made me laugh, and think that is my life somedays.
Carrie

Greg said...

Packman, they absolutely are worth every bit!!! We wish you the best. Jamen still talks about the cool football player that was at our house and I have a hard time linking you with "cool". However, it's a stretch that I've made. GOOD LUCK!

Jamie and Kiley said...

What is so funny about those pictures is I can think of quite a few incidents that have happened with our kids that have been very similar. Maybe not quite the extreme but it brought back a few memories! Kids are so funny! Good luck with everything. We hope the best for the both of you!

D.B. said...

Well Chris, first I'll let you know I found Lisa's blog and threw some comments on. Don't worry though, we're still synchronized. Be strong on the wallpaper man, j/k. I saw some borders of Cars the other day and thought Colby would really like it. Not in this apt. though. Hey Chris, I don't think I've had any experiences quite like you've posted. Kids are a roller coaster ride, up and down. Not to make light of the situation, but only for you guys I might consider donating some of my boys, if it would help. And I'll keep you guys in mind if I ever make a will, maybe if Bridgette and I both 'kicked the bucket' early together, you could have ours. Well, seriously will keep you in our thoughts and let us know if we can ever do anything to help. Really though, it sounds like all you need is a miracle, it could happen. Wasn't there some lady in the Bible that was like 90?
Gotta Jet, Ciao ciao

Liz said...

This is Liz Ferris and I went to college with Chris. I found your blog on the Carre and Justin's website. I think a wise man once said, "Having kids it wanting to hug and strangle them at the same time." Yeah, that about sums it up.

Michelle said...

This is Brandon.

My experience tells me that when discussing significant problems in other people's lives, the likelyhood of saying something stupid and/or offensive is incredibly high, especially when I havn't experienced a similar problem in my own life. But, casting that piece of wisdom aside, I'll make this stupid comment: Don't keep "trying" ;)

Glad that you found us. We were wondering what the hell you where up to. Actually, Michelle was only wondering what the heck you have been up to.

Congrats on what appears to be a fulfilling and sucessful life.

Michelle said...

this is michelle. had I known that brandon was going to be so vulgar, I would have censored. plus, I usually edit his stuff anyway and this is a prime example: it's clear he meant "don't STOP trying" and instead wrote "don't keep trying." This is why brandon needs me in his life. :)

We've been in florida for about 2 weeks now, starting B's phD..we're pretty stoked, although hot and sticky too. upstate new york sounds fabulous, actually...way to go some place and stay.

And I too read a little of your wife's blog; when I saw something like "You know my love for fabric" I KNEW this girl was a keeper. way to be packer, way to be.

here's to keeping in touch. way to find us. I'll be sure to try and censor anything from brandon from now on. :)

Lauren said...

Chris Packer! This is Lauren Shumway, Joseph's wife! You look great and your wife is so pretty! We have a blog too at shumways.blogspot.com. Check us out sometime! Keep in touch!